Protect me from what I want

I hear, all the time, two different perspectives:

1. It will happen when you least expect it.
2. It has to be a priority.

I’m willing to bet on the former, but understand the importance of the latter.

I know what I’m looking/hoping for:
- He effing knows what he wants – he wants to fall in love, develop a healthy relationship with someone, and someday (and I’m talking YEARS down the road, not next week), have a family.
- He’s not dictated by social convention. He doesn’t figure, “Well, I’m not sure about this, but it’s what I’m ‘supposed’ to do.” 
- He has his shit together – a career (or at least a job he enjoys,) his own place, a good relationship with his family, an education, goals, loves learning new things, etc.
- He has a sense of humor, doesn’t take himself too seriously, and is unafraid to laugh. Loud.
- He’s open-minded, easy-going and doesn’t rush to judgment.
- His idea of a good time ISN’T going out and getting trashed at a bar.
- He’s taller than me. (Hey, I’m just sayin.’)
- He loves rollercoasters.
- He loves to travel and expand his horizons.
- He has friendships over a decade old.
- He can talk. About anything.
- He’s honest and ethical.
- He cares about the world around him.
- He likes animals.
- He has good taste in music and movies. He’s got an appreciation for all things nerdy, but doesn’t live in his parents’ basement.
- He doesn’t harbor any anger or resentment toward any of his exes.
- He genuinely likes me for me. He wants the foundation of a good friendship as much as I do.
- He’s genuinely interested in me, and doesn’t play the “You’re like my sister” card.
- He’s realistic enough be practical, but idealistic enough to dream big.
- He doesn’t have hangups about religion, politics or sex. He’s spiritually open, but rational.
- He can cook.
- He has a life of his own, and respects that I do, too.
- He knows the difference between wanting and needing someone.

This seems like a lot, but fuck it. Why not? I don’t want someone settling for me. Why would I settle either?

Maybe by indicating what it is that I want in a partner, I’ve handed this off into the universe… and fate will take care of the rest.